Vayeitzei 5770: Infertility Antics, Redux

We follow the path of Yaakov as he heads out to Charan in search of a wife. His trip begins with a noteworthy revelation and he has another revelation before he heads back home. What is intriguing is the angst of the pregnancies of the latest Matriarchs. The drama certainly evokes the experiences of the earlier Matriarchs.

We can hardly forget the stress endured by Sarah, the first Matriarch. Sarah offers her handmaiden Hagar to her husband Avraham as a surrogate. Sarah subsequently has a son and then banishes Hagar from her home.

Sarah’s only son Yitzchak marries Rivkah after a blind date and she too is infertile. Nevertheless, she quickly conceives after what appears to be effective prayer by both Rivkah  and Yitzchak.

Now the third generation of ancestors suffers the same malady. The text made clear in the case of Sarah and Rivkah that it was a case of female infertility. This seems to be true with Yaakov’s wives as well.

The text implies Leah - the elder of the two wives – cannot conceive. Bereishis 29.31 states “And God saw that Leah was hated, so God opened her womb...” Ostensibly, her womb had previously been ‘closed’.

Rachel’s ordeal is especially troubling. Chapter 30 begins with Rachel’s realization that she was not getting pregnant after her older sister had her fourth son. She makes a startling demand of Yaakov: “Give me children, and if not, I am dead.” Yaakov’s reply is even more unnerving: ‘And Yaakov became angry with Rachel, and he said, “Am I instead of God, Who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?”’ 

How does Rachel come to present such a demand to Yaakov? How does Yaakov reply with such brutal indifference? Why is Yaakov ‘angry’?

The pattern of Sarah is followed as Rachel presents her handmaid to Yaakov and utters the familiar refrain “so that I, too, will be built up from her.” Note the use of the word ‘too’. Does she intimate that she is consciously exercising Sarah’s methodology? Finally Rachel prevails and gives birth to Yosef.

What finally does the trick for Rachel? Is there a paradigm Rachel must follow to conceive?

Toldos 5770 EXTRA: What’s So Funny?

Having just completed the drama of the righteous patriarch Yitzchak (יצחק) in parshas Toldos, we ponder the etymology of his name: ‘he laughed’. Having a name associated with laughter is great, isn’t it? What is the essence of צחק  that earned Yitzchak this handle?

Certainly, we will not ignore the fact that this name was divinely ordained (Bereishis 17.19). In parshas Lech Lecha, Avraham has a revelation that he and Sarah – both past childbearing years – will have a son. What is Avraham’s response? He laughs (17.17). God replies “No, really” and even assigns a name for this as yet unborn son.

Later in parshas Vayeira, Sarah overhears a second revelation about a son and she laughs. This time, God is not amused. Confronted and in fear, Sarah denies it all. How does her laughter differ from Avraham’s laugh?

Rashi follows the lead of the great translator Onkelos and renders them differently. Avraham’s laugh is ‘וחדי’ or he ‘rejoiced’. Avraham joyously celebrated the wonderful news. On the other hand Sarah ‘וחיכת’; laughed skeptically. Their responses are similar. They both reflect with similar thoughts. 

• Avraham: Then Avraham fell on his face, and laughed, and said in his heart: “Will a child be born to him that is a hundred years old? and will Sarah, who is ninety years old, bear?”
• Sarah: And Sarah laughed to herself, saying: “After I have aged, will I have pleasure, my husband being old, too?”
  

How does Onkelos support the different renderings? Is there a clue in context?

Laugh and Everyone Laughs With You

As we now know a son is indeed born to Avraham and Sarah. Yitzchak is named as instructed. There is a bris, and then a gala banquet after he is weaned. We can imagine much laughter and good times among the celebrants. Sarah says it best (21.6): “God has made laughter for me; whoever hears will laugh for me.”

The laughter ends abruptly. Sarah espies Avraham’s son Ishmael מצחק. How do we translate this word? Artscroll renders it as ‘mocking’ (and adds a possible ‘playing’ or ‘making sport’). Rashi contends that he was worshipping idols! He proves his position by citing the golden calf debacle where the Israelites got up לצחק (Shemos 32.6). Certainly, the text makes it clear: Ishmael's behavior is serious enough that it triggers this declaration from Sarah: There is no room in this house for both Yitzchak and Ishmael. This must have been no mere giggle coming from Ishmael!

Meanwhile, back in Toldos…Fleeing Avimelech, Yitzchak is caught ‘מצחק’ with his wife Rivkah: He was ‘jesting’ with her. Contextually, we presume that Yitzchak was carrying on as a husband might with his wife as Avimelech exclaims: “…but look! She is your wife”. We see a similar expression in 39.14 when Ms Potiphar accuses Yoseph of sexual advances.

Is ‘מצחק’ Just Kidding or a Sexual Come-on?

Evidently the term צחק  means more that mere laughter. It must be a paradigm of sorts. The same terminology refers to expressions of joy, cynicism, worship and foreplay. Given the complexity of this expression, what does this reveal about the man that bears the name יצחק?

Toldos 5770: The Scent of a Man

In our continuing survey to understand the dysfunctional families of Bereishis, Toldos raises the bar. This week, we are presented with four personalities that carry on as ships in the night: None seem to grasp what the other is doing. Yet, there is certainly a method to this madness.

Yitzchak, the former sacrifice, is the patriarch du jour. He is his father’s son as revealed not only by his acts but even the opening verse:

"Here follows the generations of Yitzchak, son of Avraham; Avraham fathered Yitzchak. (Bereishis 25.19)"

Like his father before him, Yitzchak digs wells, introduces Mrs. Yitzchak as his sister and like Avraham, Yitzchak favors his firstborn son.

Rivkah, the abovementioned ‘sister’ is the quintessential matriarch. Like Sarah before her, she has fertility issues. She has revelations (25.23). She knows who the chosen son is and will stop at nothing to see that he makes the cut. She takes assertive action (27.5, 42).

Does this couple ever speak with each other? Rivkah speaks to Yitzchak only once in our sidrah. There is no record of his reply, no dialog with her at all.

What of their sons? We marvel at how twin brothers can be such polar opposites: one a hunter, one a dweller in tents. Oh, they carry on like typical brothers. There is deception, jealousy, murder threats and more.

There is even evidence of miscommunication between son and parent. Rivkah hustles Yaakov into the infamous deception but he strikes us (and the Midrash) as reluctant. Esav thinks that taking a wife from the Ishmaelite will please his dad. Does it?

As we step back we recognize that Rivkah and Yitzchak are indeed the righteous ancestors. Yaakov and Esav are their flesh and blood. Can we square that with the tragi-comedy that is Toldos? Is Yitzchak really blind or just playing an ace up his sleeve? Does Rivkah know something Yitzchak does not? Is Esau the bad apple or truly meritorious? Who does Yaakov really fear?

Chaye Sarah 5770: The Other Woman, Epilog

The pivotal sidrah Chaye Sarah is usually summarized as the final days of Avraham as he winds up his worldly affairs. To be sure, the three chapters neatly contain three important events in the final days of Avraham:

• Chapter 23: Laying the late Sarah to rest
• Chapter 24: Finding a wife for Yitzchak
• Chapter 25: Finding a wife for himself?

Yes, Avraham re-marries in a much lesser known union. Is this story as important as the other three? As is rarely the case with women in the Torah, the bride – Keturah - is named in the text. This signals that she is most significant. Who is this mystery woman? What motivates Avraham to start a second family? Why does the Torah relate this to us? The Torah details the offspring of the union, some having biblical name recognition. Avraham dispatches them to the ‘Land of the East’. Where have we encountered this place before? Who else is sent there?

And so, the life of Avraham ends on some very odd notes. True, Torah relates that he died a ripe old age feeling fulfilled. Surprisingly, he is buried by Yitzchok and Ishmael (mentioned in just that order). They are referred to as his sons. Why do they get equal billing?

Yitzchok lives in a familiar place: Be'er Lachai Ro'I, the oasis where Hagar encounters an angel. The name is in commemoration of this event (Bereishis 16.14). Coincidence? Were Yitzchok and Ishmael matchmaking for their dear old dad?

Who does Avraham marry and why? Would Sarah have approved?

Vayeirah 5770: The Other Woman, Part 2

In parshas Lech Lechah, we followed the tension between Avraham, Sarah and Hagar. This week, in Vayeirah, they are at it again. As we rejoin the trio, a bundle of joy has arrived in la casa de Avraham. There is a bris, a naming (Yitzchok) and a weaning ceremony. All is great until Sarah espies Hagar’s son misbehaving (cf. Rashi, 21.9).

In the midst of the rejoicing, Sarah turns to Avraham (again) and orders him to send off Hagar and “her son”, perhaps deliberately omitting the “son’s” name. This time Avraham is not passive: “But the matter greatly displeased Abraham, concerning his son.” (21.11)

Nevertheless, God encourages Avraham to "listen to (Sarah's) voice." Even so, God promises that Ishmael is destined to be the patriarch of a great nation on Avraham's merit.

Hagar wanders off into the wilderness with her son. The story is eerily like the next chapter when Avraham heads out on a journey with Yitzchok. How is the exile of Ishmael like the Akedah of Yitzchok? Both nearly die. Both are rescued by angels. And, both sire great nations.

Why does Avraham embrace Ishmael despite Sarah's pleas?